Need some help on running the server on cygwin, and clients on FreeBSD.

[Constantine]

Hello!

I am trying to run the X server on my cygwin machine, and the clients on 
my FreeBSD 4.7 box. As of today, to start the session I need to:
1. type "startx"
2. type "xhost + 192.168.0.18"
3. right-click, exit.
4. open ssh session, set display to 192.168.0.1, and run startkde.

I do believe that this is a very complicated steps to follow, and I 
would highly appreciate if someone could explain, how could I set up the 
system to follow all these steps automatically.

A bit of the reference material I was trying to follow:
http://xfree86.cygwin.com/docs/ug/using-remote-session.html
http://www.xfree86.org/current/Xserver.1.html#sect6
http://www.xfree86.org/current/xdm.1.html
http://www.xs4all.nl/~zweije/xauth.html

On both Cygwin (192.168.0.1) and FreeBSD (192.168.0.18) I use XFree86 
4.2.0 (165).

Thank you.
Constantine.